This blog is generally a lighthearted space, a place to smile and laugh while discussing Richard’s fictional characters as well as his warm, personal character too. I try to put a positive spin on things when I can but I don’t like to devalue anyone’s opinions; we all fangirl in different ways because we are different people. Some of us are serious minded, while others are more playful. Some of us are optimists while others are pessimists. Some of us would rather remain blissful while others need to find the truth. I like to think that most of us are a little bit of all of those things, we just tend to openly show certain traits more than others. Luckily there are different venues with different tones in this fandom, so that everyone can find what best fits them- on any given day. Some fandoms only have one news source, one fan forum, one blog and that’s it. We have several of each. And we have something else that’s rare too: the person our fandom is built around actually acknowledges us, communicates with us, cares about us.
All of the above are good things, I think. Not everyone agrees with that all of the time. I could bring out my soap-box and share my displeasure about the recent negativity directed at Marlise Boland, just like I could have on any of the other occasions that bloggers, commenters, or forum members have crossed the line in what I feel is appropriate or polite behavior. But I realize that my line is not everyone’s, it’s mine. So I try to reign in my anger and disappointment and remind myself of the rule that I’ve chosen to live by: treat others as you would like to be treated. I’m not always successful at that. Sometimes I get crabby, sometimes I think I know what is best, sometimes I want others to bear the brunt of my hurts for me. It’s part of being human.
Instead of taking an eye for an eye, I’ll be choosing kindness. Instead of fighting with negativity, I’ll choose to counteract the fighting with positivity. I’d rather bring attention to what I like, not monologue about all the things that I don’t. Blogging is monologuing but if you’re going to listen to anything that I say, I hope it’s the positive that sticks with you, not the negative. I suspect we have enough negative in our lives already, that’s why we’re here. So instead of wagging my finger and voicing what I think we are doing wrong in this fandom (on all sides), I’ll choose to accentuate the positive instead.
accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between
You’ve got to spread joy up to the maximum
Bring gloom down to the minimum
Have faith or pandemonium’s
Liable to walk upon the scene
What will you choose?