“H” is for Honesty

Do you ever feel like your interactions online are like a dinner party, where you need to watch what you say and how you say it in order to make a good impression?

*No, dressing your poodle up as Legolas isn't weird at all...*
*No, dressing your poodle up as Legolas isn’t weird at all…*

say what you wanna say

and let the words fall out

Honestly, I wanna see you be brave.

~”Brave” by Sara Bareilles


Lately, I’ve been feeling like the things that I say keep getting misunderstood. I’d like to think that it’s not intentional, that I’m just being overly sensitive; and that is true to an extent.

I can be clumsy; does that make me stupid? huh? Does it?! (no, it makes you a klutz. get over yourself)
I can be clumsy; does that make me stupid? huh? Does it?! (no, it makes you a klutz. get over yourself)

*I* need to own this. *I* need to stop tip-toeing around the issues because

“I’m new here and I don’t want to cause problems.”

*what if they're sleeping? maybe I should knock softer*
*what if they’re sleeping? maybe I should knock softer*

When I do confront

and it all goes to Hell


It’s my own expectations that are my biggest downfall.

My approach isn’t automatically the rule.

*that was funny. Laugh!*
*that was funny. Laugh!*

What are these unwritten rules that keep tripping me up?

Well, as I understand them, they seem to be:

– be nice

I can do that *smiles*

– be respectful to your fellow fans

again, no problem!


– be respectful of Richard

this one can be subjective, so I’ll just invest in some blinders

Richard should probably get some too
Richard should probably get some too

– I can respectfully criticize Richard, as long as I tack on a

“whatever makes him happy” disclaimer

as Richard Armitage fans, isn’t that a given, that we want him to be happy?

unless it makes you happy *winks*
unless it makes you happy *winks*

– I can state my opinions, as long as I include a “in my opinion” or

“everyone has a right to their own opinion.”

doesn’t the “I think” or “I feel” already cover that?


– don’t accidentally accuse anyone of…well, anything…

or imply that they are doing something wrong

this is getting complicated. (the doing-it-wrong issue can actually be one of my own hot-buttons; I’ve never claimed that I’m not a hypocrite ­čśë )


So, in summary:

I should just approach every conversation

as if it has the potential to get me sued.

Richard! that is not PC! *tsk*
Richard! that is not PC! *tsk*

Cover my ass,

and just generally kiss ass

it's better to say arse; I've not figured out why, yet.
it’s better to say arse; I’ve not figured out why, yet.

and I

should be fine!


I’ve not spent a lot of time on blogs before, most of my interactions in other fandoms

have taken place on forums.

*she doesn't know our ways; I'll vouch for her this time*
*she doesn’t know our ways; I’ll vouch for her this time*

I love the interactions I’ve had with all of you

on this blog

you'rrre great!
you’rrre great!

but when I roam abroad,

I should bring along some protection

get your mind out of the gutter, Richard!
get your mind out of the gutter, Richard!

to build me up a bit first;

the lyrics to this Sara Bareilles song can help in that regard,

give it a listen:

Have you ever felt this way too? What kinds of things are holding you back, either in fandom or in real life?

Swearing, perhaps?

-fucking door!-
-fucking door!-




-you, God damned...-
-you, God damned…-


-bloody bastard!!-
-bloody bastard!!-

or maybe that’s just me ­čś│

show me how big your brave is

“G” is for Gallant

Gallant: adj. 1.) brave, chivalrous 2.) grand, stately; finely dressed 3.) markedly attentive to women; concerned with sexual love

 noun. 1.) ladies man 2.) escort to a lady 3.) flirt.

When trying to think of a “G” word that could be associated with a Richard Armitage character, Gallant seemed like a safe bet.

(once I had discarded my original thought of grappling hook (?) followed closely by giggle-snort…)

try making a pic spam sing-along out of that one!
try making a pic spam sing-along out of that one!

John Thornton, finely dressed man that he is, came to mind first.


John is chivalrous and it could also be said that he is brave;

going against popular opinion with his choice of Margaret.

Ladies man, though? Flirt? Markedly attentive to women?

That sounds more like Guy.

*this* is "attentive"
*this* is “attentive”

I wouldn’t describe Guy as grand or stately, though.

Nor was he particularly brave and chivalrous.

scary? yes
scary? yes

What about Thorin, then?

Certainly brave.

Finely dressed and stately too


but not so concerned with sexual love,

at least not that we know of…

"come and take a ride on my disco stick"
“come and take a ride on my disco stick”

Is there a Richard Armitage character that encompasses all the different aspects of Gallant?

John Porter, maybe?

hey there, Romeo
hey there, Romeo

 Probably not so finely dressed, though.

"fine" is in the eye of the beholder
“fine” is in the eye of the beholder

What about…Richard Armitage, himself?

he can be quite a "character"!
he can be quite a “character”!

Finely dressed? check.


Brave? check.


Chivalrous? check.


Concerned with sexual love? check.

not really "proof" but I'm counting it!
not really “proof” but I’m counting it!

Flirt? check.


Ladies man?

does a whole army of ladies count?


Escort to a lady?

I’m sure he’s escorted a few in his day…


So, “Gallant” is for Richard Armitage.


“F” is for Feeling

Sometimes when I’m upset with myself or the world around me, there is a cute little book that I pull off of my bookshelf and turn to for encouragement. It’s a book that my Grandmother used to read to me when I was very small.

some of my best friends are books
some of my best friends live in books

I found need of it this past weekend. And so opened it up, anticipating the charming pictures and simple but heartfelt text.

he's a wise one
he’s a wise one

There is a passage that talks about how good it feels to find someone who wants to listen to you, and doesn’t tell you to go away. This reminded me of Richard and how he appears to be so attentive to those around him.

After going back through the book, page by page, it was easy for me to see Richard/his characters in every passage. It may seem a bit odd to relate a children’s book to Richard Armitage and his career, but it has always been what lies underneath that captivates me.


tell me if you see what I do…

Love Is A Special Way of Feeling

by Joan Walsh Anglund

Love is a special way of feeling…

Guy gives of himself to Marian

It is the safe way we feel when we sit on our mother’s lap with her arms around us tight and close.

Porter comforts his daughter
Porter comforts his daughter

It is the good way we feel when we talk to someone and they want to listen and don’t tell us to go away and be quiet.

Harry listens to Geraldine by choice, not by obligation
Harry listens to Geraldine by choice, not by obligation

It is the happy way we feel when we save a bird that has been hurt…

Porter is needed

or feed a lost cat…

Ricky offers guidance
Ricky offers guidance

or calm a frightened colt.

Mulligan has the patience to let Ellie come to him
Mulligan has the patience to let Ellie come to him

Love is found in unexpected places…It is there in the quiet moment when we first discover a beautiful thing…when we watch a bird soar high against a pale blue sky…

Monet shares what he finds beautiful
Monet shares what he finds beautiful

when we see a lovely flower that no one else has noticed…

Ian gives attention to a colleague's neglected wife
Ian gives attention to a colleague’s neglected wife

when we find a place that shelters us and is all our very own.

Lucas finds a place where he can be his best self
Lucas finds a place where he can be his best self

Love starts in little ways… It may begin the day we first share our thoughts with someone else…

Thornton & Margaret finally accept their differences
Thornton & Margaret start to accept their differences

or help someone who needs us…

Alec finds true enjoyment helping others
Alec finds true enjoyment helping others

Or, sometimes, it begins because, even without words, we understand how someone feels.

Paul knows what it's like to be forgotten
Paul knows what it’s like to feel neglected

Love comes quietly…but you know when it is there, because, suddenly… you are not alone any more…and there is no sadness inside you.

Standring and Carol can lean on each other

Love is a happy feeling that stays inside your heart for the rest of your life.


“E” is for…





I’ll let you decide

that doesn’t bode well…

When I talked about the 60 seconds interview and mentioned how cute it was that Richard claimed he only knew one joke, which just so happened to resemble the only joke I knew as well, I may have embellished a bit; I actually know two jokes.

-well, let's hear it then-
well, let’s hear it then

*clears throat*

A Bear walks into a bar


and says, “Bartender, give me a beer.”


The Bartender says, “We don’t serve bears here.”┬á(not smart)

The Bear gets angry and seethes, “give me a beer!”

dew it!
dew it!

The Bartender…doesn’t.

are you mad, man?!
are you mad, man?!

The Bear gets angrier and threatens, “If you don’t give me a beer, I will Eat that woman at the end of the bar.”

I think he means business
I think he means business

So the Bear gobbles up the woman, then approaches the Bartender again and says, “You going to serve me a beer, Now?”


The Bartender says, “I can’t. We don’t serve druggies here either.” The Bear, affronted says, “I don’t use drugs!”

not really convincing...
not really convincing…

The Bartender raises a brow and says, “Well, that was the bar bitch you ate.”





I learned that joke when I was 17. that’s my only excuse.


alrighty then. so…

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“D” is for Dashing

This is Mr.Thornton, in his don’t-mess-with-the-boss attire:




This is Mr. Social-Call Thornton. I’m not crazy about top-hats but look at that poise:


Notice the splash of color here: a maroon colored cravat and a stripped waist-coat…


one dashing fellow!


Now here is Mr. Social-Engagement Thornton. I’m not really loving this look:



more dandy than dashing.


But here we have I’m-running-my-own-business-and-life-is-good Thornton:


Sinfully dashing!


While here we have my-mother-just-gave-me-some-really-bad- advice Thornton:


dashing but not as appealing, somehow.


if he would have just gone with this look to begin with:


Oh, no! Poor Mr. Thornton has gone from dashing to distressed.


where did he go wrong?


Was it the hat? It is a bit frayed.


No, the hat looks fine Mr. Thornton.


Was it the splash of color?


That color is definitely dashing, Mr. Thornton!


Was it the stripped waist-coat?


aside from the unwanted attention, it wasn’t the waist-coat either.


What was it, then? Maybe show more of those forearms?


Mr. Thornton,

*tries not to shrink from that intimidating stare*

you always look dashing!


…just try losing the cravat more often.




Really, Really.