“H” is for Honesty

Do you ever feel like your interactions online are like a dinner party, where you need to watch what you say and how you say it in order to make a good impression?

*No, dressing your poodle up as Legolas isn't weird at all...*
No, dressing your poodle up as Legolas isn’t weird at all…

say what you wanna say
and let the words fall out
Honestly, I wanna see you be brave.
~”Brave” by Sara Bareilles


Lately, I’ve been feeling like the things that I say keep getting misunderstood. I’d like to think that it’s not intentional, that I’m just being overly sensitive; and that is true to an extent.

I can be clumsy; does that make me stupid? huh? Does it?! (no, it makes you a klutz. get over yourself)
I can be clumsy, does that make me stupid? huh, does it?! no, it makes you a klutz. get over yourself

*I* need to own this. *I* need to stop tip-toeing around the issues because “I’m new here and I don’t want to cause problems.

*what if they're sleeping? maybe I should knock softer*
what if they’re sleeping? maybe I should knock softer

When I do confront and it all goes to Hell,


It’s my own expectations that are my biggest downfall. My approach isn’t automatically the rule.

*that was funny. Laugh!*
that was funny. laugh!

What are these unwritten rules that keep tripping me up? Well, as I understand them, they seem to be:

be nice
I can do that *smiles*

be respectful to your fellow fans
again, no problem!


be respectful of Richard
this one can be subjective, so I’ll just invest in some blinders

Richard should probably get some too
Richard should probably get some too.

I can respectfully criticize Richard, as long as I tack on a ‘whatever makes him happy‘ disclaimer
as Richard Armitage fans, isn’t that a given, that we want him to be happy?

unless it makes you happy *winks*
unless it makes you happy *winks*

I can state my opinions, as long as I include a ‘in my opinion‘ or ‘everyone has a right to their own opinion.
doesn’t the *I think* or *I feel* already cover that?


don’t accidentally accuse anyone of, well, anything. or imply that they are doing something wrong.
this is getting complicated (the doing it wrong issue can actually be one of my own hot-buttons; I’ve never claimed that I’m not a hypocrite)



So, in summary: I should just approach every conversation as if it has the potential to get me sued,

Richard! that is not PC! *tsk*
Richard! that is not PC! *tsk*

cover my ass, and just generally kiss ass

it's better to say arse; I've not figured out why, yet.
it’s better to say arse; I’ve not figured out why, yet.

and I should be fine!



I’ve not spent a lot of time on blogs before, most of my interactions in other fandoms have taken place on forums.

*she doesn't know our ways; I'll vouch for her this time*
she doesn’t know our ways; I’ll vouch for her this time

I love the interactions I’ve had with all of you on this blog

you'rrre great!
you’rrre great!

but when I roam abroad, I should bring along some protection

get your mind out of the gutter, Richard!
get your mind out of the gutter, Richard!

to build me up a bit first. the lyrics to this Sara Bareilles song can help in that regard, give it a listen:


Have you ever felt this way too? What kinds of things are holding you back, either in fandom or in real life?

Swearing, perhaps?

-fucking door!-
fucking door!
-you, God damned...-
you, God damned…
-bloody bastard!!-
bloody bastard!!

or maybe that’s just me?

Show me how big your brave is

“G” is for Gallant

Gallant: adj. 1.) brave, chivalrous 2.) grand, stately; finely dressed 3.) markedly attentive to women; concerned with sexual love

 noun. 1.) ladies man 2.) escort to a lady 3.) flirt.

When trying to think of a “G” word that could be associated with a Richard Armitage character, Gallant seemed like a safe bet- once I discarded my original thought of grappling hook (?) followed closely by giggle-snort.

try making a pic spam sing-along out of that one!
try making a pic spam sing-along out of that one!

John Thornton, finely dressed man that he is, came to mind first.


John is chivalrous and it could also be said that he is brave, going against popular opinion with his choice of Margaret. Ladies man, though? Flirt? Markedly attentive to women?

That sounds more like Guy.

*this* is "attentive"
*this* is “attentive”

I wouldn’t describe Guy as grand or stately, though. Nor was he particularly brave or chivalrous.

scary? yes
scary? yes

What about Thorin? Certainly brave. Finely dressed and stately too


but not so concerned with sexual love, at least not that we know of.

"come and take a ride on my disco stick"
“come and take a ride on my disco stick”

Is there a Richard Armitage character that encompasses all the different aspects of Gallant? John Porter, maybe?

hey there, Romeo
hey there, Romeo

 Probably not so finely dressed, though.

"fine" is in the eye of the beholder
“fine” is in the eye of the beholder

What about…Richard Armitage, himself?

he can be quite a "character"!
he can be quite a “character”!

Finely dressed? check.


Brave? check.


Chivalrous? check.


Concerned with sexual love? check.

not really "proof" but I'm counting it!
not really “proof” but I’m counting it!

Flirt? check.


Ladies man? does a whole army of ladies count?


Escort to a lady? I’m sure he’s escorted a few in his day.


So, “Gallant” is for Richard Armitage!