Do you ever feel like your interactions online are like a dinner party, where you need to watch what you say and how you say it in order to make a good impression?
say what you wanna say
and let the words fall out
Honestly, I wanna see you be brave.
~”Brave” by Sara Bareilles
Lately, I’ve been feeling like the things that I say keep getting misunderstood. I’d like to think that it’s not intentional, that I’m just being overly sensitive; and that is true to an extent.
*I* need to own this. *I* need to stop tip-toeing around the issues because “I’m new here and I don’t want to cause problems.“
When I do confront and it all goes to Hell,
It’s my own expectations that are my biggest downfall. My approach isn’t automatically the rule.
What are these unwritten rules that keep tripping me up? Well, as I understand them, they seem to be:
– be nice
I can do that *smiles*
– be respectful to your fellow fans
again, no problem!
– be respectful of Richard
this one can be subjective, so I’ll just invest in some blinders
– I can respectfully criticize Richard, as long as I tack on a ‘whatever makes him happy‘ disclaimer
as Richard Armitage fans, isn’t that a given, that we want him to be happy?
– I can state my opinions, as long as I include a ‘in my opinion‘ or ‘everyone has a right to their own opinion.‘
doesn’t the *I think* or *I feel* already cover that?
– don’t accidentally accuse anyone of, well, anything. or imply that they are doing something wrong.
this is getting complicated (the doing it wrong issue can actually be one of my own hot-buttons; I’ve never claimed that I’m not a hypocrite)
So, in summary: I should just approach every conversation as if it has the potential to get me sued,
cover my ass, and just generally kiss ass
and I should be fine!
I’ve not spent a lot of time on blogs before, most of my interactions in other fandoms have taken place on forums.
I love the interactions I’ve had with all of you on this blog
but when I roam abroad, I should bring along some protection
to build me up a bit first. the lyrics to this Sara Bareilles song can help in that regard, give it a listen:
Have you ever felt this way too? What kinds of things are holding you back, either in fandom or in real life?
or maybe that’s just me?
Show me how big your brave is